“…Spare the rod and spoil the child”.
There is a big difference between discipline and punishment when it comes to correcting your child’s wrong doings.
Punishment centers on a past wrong. It can be physical as in hitting, spanking and so on; it may also be psychological such as isolation, or shaming. Clearly, punishment is the wrong way of training a child because it does not really help the child behave better. Punishment targets the person and not the problem which may sometimes make the child feel like he never do anything right and that can lead to low self-esteem and depression.
Discipline is a positive method of teaching your child responsibility, confidence and self-control. It is a way of teaching your child the acceptable and not acceptable behavior by modelling, showing and teaching them the appropriate behavior.
Benefits of Discipline
- Discipline prevents a lot of behavior problems and ensures the child learns from his mistakes.
- Its positive approaches encourage good behavior and motivates them to follow the rules.
- It is proactive and not reactive
- It fuels positive relationships between parents and children
- It focuses on ‘change’ and not ‘shame’.